Assumptions

This is stressing you out. 

So often, I sit down with clients and they'll say to me "Laine, you will never guess what happened" and then they'll go into this long and very dramatic story about how someone has offended them. 

It's awful, nobody likes to be offended, and my response is always the same: “Oh, well, how did it go when you talked to them about it?”  They usually just stare at me and don’t know what to say, because they haven't talked to them about it. 

This is one thing that we can all be better at: talking to people when there's been an offense. Now, this might sound like a kindergarten concept. The problem is, adults are actually worse than kids when it comes to these things. 

When we sit and stew in our frustration, we start making assumptions about the person and their intentions.  It then creates unnecessary stress that is hurting us, them and the people around us. 

It's vitally important that whenever we have conflict, we face it head-on. We keep very short accounts. How many problems would be prevented if we immediately address issues? 

Don't hesitate. Today, be brave. Go out, have that conversation, keep short accounts and you'll find that you're actually a lot less stressed.

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